It is always a much better option to speak to me if you wish to learn of me, but I'll make it a little easy for you . . .

Welcome to me.

If you see me online I am normally lost in the catalogue or my closet, in pm with one of my closest friends, or I've planted my pixels to enjoy the music.

I will at all times be friendly, but I do possess a shy quality to my personality and I have no need or desire to be the centre of attention, nor to commandeer the local chat. I am a person of integrity and I have very high standards and morals, unfortunately sometimes too high for the likes of RLC. I have an inbuilt strength that enables me to ride the waves that is life. I love completely and unconditionally and am very loyal, unfortunately this can be deemed to be a fault of mine because you should not give loyalty where loyalty is not deserved. I am a lady at heart, inside and out and I expect and deserve to be treated as a lady, it is just a terrible shame there are so few "true" gentlemen in this world.

My life is spent quietly and happily :) I am happiest surrounded by nature and my goals keep me focused and moving through my days. My life is successful in the real world, I wasn't blessed with an easy upbringing, in fact it was tainted with my closest leaving this world early, however, my father instilled in me a kind and warm heart and a light-hearted and sometimes a little crazy humour and my mother she instilled class and strength. I have a fulltime job that provides variety and challenges which I love, however it does diminish my free time on occasion. I have a beautiful daughter, she can travel through phases that are extremely trying for me, however, she is my world and I will protect her and love her unconditionally for always, we are a package and if you dare to fall in love with me you need to be man enough to cope with the fact that my life won't revolve entirely around you. I have amazing and achievable goals where study and travel are concerned and I can't wait to indulge in them. I pride myself on my appearance, although I am my own worst critic. I have a few very close friends, from those I have known for years to those I work with, and I have a few wonderful friends I met online that have become friends beyond RLC and no my friendships are without benefits.

I am a good person and I always like the right thing done by others and think of their feelings, unlike many who just think of themselves first. I do not fit in readily to the downside of RLC, the trash talk, the lies, the games, the drama, the duplicate accounts, the cheating, the way "I Love You" is thrown around too easily, the manipulation and deception.

I have experienced the downside of RLC first hand and I will not fall victim to it again. If one thinks they can change someone, think again, one capable of such actions as infidelity . . control & manipulation . . lies . . are capable of repeating that behaviour with you, never be fooled into thinking they will be different where you are concerned. I am far from stupid and if I'm just a game to you and something to be discarded at your whim . . walk on by and don't waste my time. I don't do hot/cold moods and I don't play games with another, your games are not welcome where I am concerned .. If someone truly loves you, they will never lie to you, the lies are simply to cover their own insecurities and false reality, it helps them feel better about themselves and manipulation allows one a false sense of control to hide their weaknesses. If a person can tell you one lie, you can be sure they will not stop at one. As for infidelity . . there is no excuse aside from a lack of character and integrity.

Now onto maturity, within world I choose no drama . . you are adults no ? Then why do you pretend to be children with "he said this" and "she said that" etc. Grow up ! You never know two sides of a story unless you are the parties involved. I will not ever allow myself to be controlled by another person, I am my own person, I make my own mind up and will not ever judge on another opinion aside from my own. Never have expectations where I am concerned, I walk through life as I choose and if I give you my time it is my choice, it is not to be expected from me. I don't want to hear negativity or excuses, nothing is impossible in my eyes . . you build your own barriers in life and often they are motivated by fear and the unwillingness to risk. I thrive on reality and contradictions are noticed by me . . if one avoids a chance at a small dose of reality, the realisation of the presence of bullshit is one I won't ignore . . on another tangent completely, if I see you kneel for a master be sure I am biting my tongue to stop myself telling you to have some pride in yourself.

So here it is, I love manners, is it so hard to say hello and respect another ? and class, so few on RLC own and are proud of who they are, a person that exudes classiness stands out in a crowd. :) Shallowness reigns within RLC and I don't do shallow. I don't know how to be anybody but myself, my character remains the same in virtual and in the real. Since when do females go to a club naked and wear lingerie in public ? Leave a little to the imagination and present with pride. I dare you to prove your genuineness and show exactly who you are on the inside. I don't want to meet the person you are pretending to be in the virtual, I want to meet the person that you genuinely are in the real and online.

I truly have seen it all and I can see bullshit very easily on RLC, you are transparent to me. I am far too realistic and embrace the real world, never allowing myself to be lost in a virtual world that has no meaning at all in the real world. Never get in my near and then show to ghost . . I don't want to know you from that point and you won't find anything on my profile to satisfy your perverted desires. If you ask me to dance I will kindly decline, if you are man enough to hold a conversation with me beyond my declining your offer . . I will be somewhat impressed by you . .

Be real, half the lesbians are men, half the females are male . . . who knows you may have just broken someone's heart and have run off with a male who presents as a female :) Own yourself and act as you would in the real world otherwise nobody will know who you are anyway, so is there any real point ?

I love the anonymity provided within RLC because it detracts from the shallowness of what human nature has become. If you fall truly in love with another, should it matter whether they are short/tall/overweight/too thin/black/white ? Afterall don't we remember the soul of a person, their little quirks, their mannerisms and their laughter to name a few ? Not their perfectly toned butt or their bulging biceps or the colour of their skin ? I met a lady once on RLC, I will never forget her story, she was wheelchair bound and she came to RLC because she had freedom of movement, she could walk, she could dance and she met the love of her life here . . now that is where the beauty of RLC lies . .

Do not copy off others, to copy is to simplify your intelligence and there is no comparison to someone that is original and unique. Yes intelligence is my aphrodisiac, but don't pretend to be intelligent when your brain cells reside in your rear end ! I love a man that possesses intelligence not learned from books, but from life itself . . wisdom provides scintillating company.

So am I intimidating to a man, no, unless you aren't a man, but simply a child who has never grown up, or you do not know how to treat a lady that has a mind of her own and possesses intelligence, wisdom and independence ! I can be stubborn, I'm not too stubborn to admit to that . . I love a man to challenge my mind and to at times show their masculinity and strength of character by taking control . . remember I said at times :) Do I need a man ? No . . . I am quite capable and content with who I am and I am happy with my life . . A good man would be the icing on the cake for me.

I won't accept sex talk, I don't present as a whore, don't treat me like one and if I hear you speak of a female or male on local in a derogatory fashion my respect for you will be nil. NEVER, befriend me and pretend to love me for my attributes when you were simply impressed and later you find that you resent those things in me . . . you found me to be challenging however you only are capable of a "yes/no" female in the long run. I also possess a name . . don't call me "Sexy" . . I have pride in my being and do not jump from man to man . . I see it regularly on RLC and it does not impress me, each to their own . . however I take notice and would not ever give such a person the time of day where a relationship is concerned.

If you piss me off, I'm going to tell you and if I don't, you sure won't be able to avoid the silence that ensues. I have a need to communicate, never stop me feeling as though I can say all that is on my mind and in my heart and if I let you into my heart be sure to treat me well, I can be silent when hurt and can be sensitive . . if you hurt me one too many times, you might not know it, but you will when I drift away from you . . I am one of the most loyal people you could wish to meet, however if you push me too far, I will turn my back on you and never look back.

So, in a nutshell, I am human, and I can be the nicest, most trustworthy and loving person you know, I have a heart of gold, I'm sensitive and sometimes need reassurance where my heart is concerned as I can lose my place and become unsure of how you feel. If I fall in love with you, you would receive a love that is true and I will not ever do wrong by you as I simply will not wish to be with another, nor would I hurt another human being in this manner. I will be the bestfriend you can find and I will keep your secrets safe, but cross me and I can be your worst enemy. On a final note, do not read my words here and say all of the right things to impress me from the knowledge gained above . . it takes a great deal to impress me and trust is earned . . I do not give freely of it and I am very aware of how incapable of true emotion many are in this virtual world . . more often than not I would be a conquest or simply your latest interest for the day . . that I am continually reminded of . . I thank my closest for allowing me to remember what genuine and amazing people do exist.

It is a pleasure and honour to have met you :)