 General Info
| I Am Here For: |
To Meet People, Still looking for her vampire Princess! |
| Marital Status: |
Single |
| Children: |
Have children |
| Education: |
High School |
| Religion: |
Atheist |
| Smoke: |
No |
| Drink: |
No |
| Occupation: |
Mistress/Vampire |
| Body Type: |
More to love! |
| Height: |
6' 4" |
| Ethnicity: |
Black / African Descent |
| Languages: |
English |
Sexy Stuff
| I Am Looking For: |
Virtual Relationship, Cyber Sex, Social Encounters, Erotic Chat, Cyber Friendships |
| Sexual Fantasies: |
Fetishes, Swapping, Domination, Bondage, A Beach, Costumes, Toys, Sadism & Masochism, Massage Oil, A Public Place |
| Sex is Best: |
Passionate, Loving, Wild, Kinky, In a Relationship, |
| Cybersex: |
Yes |
| I Want You To: |
Play Along With My Fantasy, Tell Me You Love Me, Talk Dirty to Me, Tell Me I'm The Best, Tell Me Your Fantasy |
| Cybersex Personality: |
Seductress/Seductor, Experienced, Loving, Passionate, Dominating, Voyeur, Threesomes, Fun With Toys, Nasty, Adventurous, Kinky, Aggressive, Wild, Role Player, Exhibitionist |
My Web Gifts
A gift from uname
Note:
Content:
Sent
12/12/2012
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Mistress_Caramel's Scoop
About me:
 Hello good people of rlc my name is Mistress_Caramel .
Who is Mistress_Caramel ?
Who was i then....
And who am i now?
I am the bitch your mom warned you about!
Ancient Vampire Queen.
I'm the opposite of a slut, because I never give a fuck!
Sired by my then dad Elder Cali DEATH October 21st 2012.
I am of the toreador clan my siring certificate is posted in my albums.
Reborn as Empress Tiani DEATH,
But have changed my name several times since i was sired.
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I am no longer of the human race and has rejected humanity walking the path of darkness nor longer of the light! For i am the daughter of the Damned vampire Dark Angel!
The weak are the most treacherous of us all. They come to the strong and drain them. They are bottomless. They are insatiable. They are always parched and always bitter. They are everyone's concern and like vampires they suck our life's blood.
Which Female Twilight Character Are You? Your Result: Victoria  Congrats! You got Victoria. You're quite an intense, committed individual. You tend to hold grudges and seek out vengeance to anyone who wrongs you - especially your family or close friends. People should definitely watch out for you, as you don't take being wronged lightly. Remember that it's okay to forgive and let go sometimes; after all, you might only end up hurting yourself! 
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It is said that the Clan's founder, Arikel was a mortal painter and/or sculptress in the First City. Famed throughout the lands for her work, after her Embrace she painted a mural on which the past, present and future of Kindred society was depicted. When Caine saw a terrible future for his race, he cursed her with the affliction that affects Toreador today – the art that she loved most dearly would now be her obsession and distraction above all things.
The Toreador had a strong presence in the early minoic cultures of Greece. The Toreador attribute many of the classic tales as distorted versions of actual interference of mortals and Cainites (such as the tale of the Minotaur or the tale of Tantalus and Pelops). Their squabbling, however, weakened the first civilization of Mycenae, as childer drew their sustenance from the population, who in turn became too weak to defend themselves from foreign invaders. After the fall of Mycenae to the Dorians, the Toreador wandered across the Mediterranean, often seeking shelter by the Roman Ventrue or the Carthaginian Brujah.
At first, the Toreador supported both sides in their struggle, but when it became clear that Carthage would lose, many Toreador abandoned the city and joined the Roman forces, bringing with them tales of debauchery and infernalism that propelled the Ventrue to completely raze the city to the ground. The Toreador began to insinuate themselves into the city, often competing with the Ventrue and Malkavians. When Rome's glory began to fade, one of them, the Toreador Mi-ka-il, deserted Rome to follow Constantine into Nova Roma, to construct the Dream that had failed in Rome, much to the shock of many Toreador Elders. Constantinople remained a beacon of Cainite power and glory, until the city was sacked by the Fourth Crusade in 1204 and original Cainite population either had fled or was destroyed.
~Phenomenal woman~
Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I'm not cute or built to suit a fashion model's size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I'm telling lies.
I say,
It's in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.
I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It's the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.
Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can't touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them
They say they still can't see.
I say,
It's in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.
Now you understand
Just why my head's not bowed.
I don't shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It's in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need of my care,
'Cause I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.
~Maya Angelou~
You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I’ll rise.
Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
’Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.
Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I’ll rise.
Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops,
Weakened by my soulful cries?
Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don’t you take it awful hard
’Cause I laugh like I’ve got gold mines
Diggin’ in my own backyard.
You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I’ll rise.
Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I’ve got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?
Out of the huts of history’s shame
I rise
Up from a past that’s rooted in pain
I rise
I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.
Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise
I rise
I rise.
~Maya Angelou~
I am an ebony female Pansexual bbw dominant that is mixed with cherokee indian. And yes i am a bbw and very proud of it. If bbws are not your cup of tea then get a fucking life grow up and move on!!!
I am a very strong and an independant woman. I am woman of substance. I am the woman that your mom warned you about. I im very kinky in my throughts. I play hard and expect it in return.
I am uninhibited in and out of the bedroom. I can be very moody at times. And can go from 00: degrees to an ice cold bitch! I am a very pampered person and used to getting what i want when i want it. I do not deal with idiot minds, liars, two faced people nor back stabbers. As well as i detest drama! You got drama or beef please leave it at the door im not the one!!
When i speak i am always candid and straight to the point and if you can't take the way i speak it is best you not be near me!! I will always keep it real weather one likes it or not !!
I am not here pretending to be someone im not....Nor will i live my life out as a fantasy....What you see is what you get!!!!
Very few men pls!
The only thing that divides us is.....1. My bed.....I so enjoy a good ass fucking you with my strappy and the good sting of the crop! For there is no pleasure without pain!
Pls note if you are a Master here you are not above me.
We are equals and you will be treated with the same respect as you give me.
I am not into games if it is games you want you had better contact milton bradley cuz im not the one!
Anyone comes to my zaby without a private invite or ur family or friends will be booted out!
We are all here to play nice. So stay in your respected sandboxes.
We are all here to have fun.
Oh hell if i sound like a bitch.....Oh hell im just being me!
For all that have read my profile or just a site seer!
I wish you all alot of luck on lifes journey and all of ur endevors.
I would like to take the time to wish you all a very nice day and a pleasent stay!
Advice for a new Mistress~
in exploring your interests in the BDSM Life/Lovestyle ...
I feel there is much you need to know about this life/lovestyle .. If you so choose to go this path ..
It takes Complete Honesty .. Open Communications and Trust ..
There are also three key words that you should always remember and live by ..
Safe .. Sane and Consensual ..
All of these are a key element in both a D/S & S/M relationship ...
Are you seeking out to be the submissive in such a relationship.. or even a switch personality ... either way you need to go into this with an open mind and full commitment ...
you need to have a desire to be willing to give up complete control of your life...
especially if you are seeking to find fulfillment and feel your submission ..
This is where trust comes in full effect .. Without Trust .. You can wind up being hurt ..
Mentally .. Emotionally and Physically ..
You must seek out someone who will respect the gift in which you are giving to them ...
the gift of giving yourself completely over to them .. The Dominant must respect your limits ...
In time .. Together .. The Dominant will help you explore them, and Listen to you when you feel uncomfortable about something ... Whether in play time or quiet time if something feels wrong
your Dominant must know immediately ...
Within you .. you must face the fact . that there can be no secrets held in .. you are stripped of
everything .. In doing so you are rebuilt into what the Dominant wishes you to be for their pleasures ..
A true submissives pleasure comes from serving and pleasing their Dominant ..
When you have reached the Dominants pleasures .. you will feel your own pleasures fulfilled ..
Once you have opened yourself to your own submission you will find out that when .. The Dominant seek out their own pleasures from within your submission ..
You will find your own pleasures ..
and thus deeply fulfill your own submission ..
You will find within your submission .. The Dominant becomes your teacher .. Guiding you down
this path that you have chosen .. Nurturing you to further growth and understanding of your self as a submissive .. Protecting you in all aspects of your life .. Respecting you .. Taking care of your every need .. Becoming your Mentor and Friend .. Loving you for all that you have become within your service (servitude) to your Dominant ..
i know this sounds a bit overwhelming .. well it is .. do not think of this as a game .. or someone will get hurt ..
and that will most likely be you .. i should know .. i have had very bad past experiences ..
and have been hurt mentally .. emotionally and physically .. i am very blessed that my Master is helping me through this ..
It takes a strong Dom to take on a sub/slave 24/7 ... Not all Dom's out there know how to handle themselves .. be protective of yourself .. Always Remember .. Safe .. Sane and Consensual ..
If it does not feel right .. get out of it right away ..
In giving yourself over to another .. remember submissive does not mean doormat ..
It is a partnership of equality .. On different levels .. Dominant/submissive ..
Take it very slow .. Patience i find in this life/lovestyle is definitely a virtue ..
As well as the safest way to explore ..
Always be honest and true to yourself in what you hold most important ..
and have fun in your further endeavor of opening yourself to submission ..
As you find yourself becoming more immersed within this life/lovestyle ..
There are some very good literature and websites that i feel are helpful in exploring yourself ..
Once you have read through some of these books/websites ..
As you go along make a list of things that turn you on and things that turn you off ..
Next to each item write down how they make you feel and why ..
This will give you an idea of what kind of limits you may have at this time ..
and will prove helpful for both you and your future Dominant ..
Slave rules for inanimate objects~
1.The slave is to kneel upon meeting and greeting his/her owner.
2. The slave is seen and not heard upon kneeling eyes are cast and fixed on the floor.
3. The slave shall not ever speak less spoken 2 and only then at the end of each sentence should be answered as yes Mistress.
4. The slave should always put ones owners desires and comfort before his or her own neeed.
5. The slave is just an inanimate object to be humiliated degraded, Sexual toy to use and abuse.
6. Some of it's uses by me with be a public toilet, ash tray, foot rest if im tired and a dog to me to be walked on a leash naked outside in public view for all to see.
7.Some of it's house chores will include cleaning naked on it's knees with brush only in mouth. Serving food to guess and sexual favors.
8. It will remain in chastity til further instructions to teach it structure and not to cumm less it is my will and only on command.
9.During a scene in case it gets hard and the slave wants out of a scene shall be a safe word called known as ( fuckyou )
10. And last but not least the slave will always ask before taking his or her leave and kneel and ones feet before departure.
My Slave Rules And Code Of Conduct~
1.A slave must be honest from the moment she begins communicating with a Domme. Never lie about relationships, experience level or anything else.
2.A slave will seek to understand want she wants and needs and to know the difference between the two.
3.A slave needs to realize some fantasies will never be more than just that. And that some of his fetishes may not strike a responsive chord within her.
4.A slave has a duty to act as an intelligent human being.
5.A slave repays a Domme’s attention with respect, humility and obedience. This is inherent in the nature of the relationship.
6.A slave always communicates her feelings as clearly as possible.
7.If the slave feels that her needs aren’t being met she will confess that respectfully without seeming to make demands.
8.A slave will watch to see if her Domme is tired or not feeling well and focus on her comfort, not on having a session.
9.A slave should never think of a Domme as a torture and humiliation machine. That is objectifying her.
10.A slave will remember that D/s is a relationship between people. her will strive to never forget that the Domme is a human being. That regardless of the power relationship thoughtless behavior on her part can inflict emotional hurt on the other person.
11.Always address Mistress as Mistress, never Miss. Address all other Doms as Miss or Ma'am, or Sir for males, Gds, Qns,King, Duchess, Baroness, Baron Lord etc.
12,You will report to me when you are online if not coming to me you will pm me to greet me. And also you will pm me asking permission before porting to me.
13. You are never to submit to another dominant without first getting my permission.
14. If there is a disagreement with a dominant please don't take it upon yourself to straighten it out. Please see me and i will remediate straightening the situation out as it were!
15.We will not tolerate drama nor fighting.
Please settle all disputes quietly among one another!
16. There will be no fading nor shading out without your Mistresses permission.
17. You will always kneel when greeting and leaving your Mistress. And will never leave unless booted without your Mistresses permission!
18. You will always start a conversation on local and get permission from your Mistresses before accepting a pm.
19.always carry yourself with respect and pride. For whatever you do reflects me.
~Nefertiti~
One of the most mysterious and powerful women in ancient Egypt, Nefertiti was queen alongside Pharaoh Akhenaten from 1353 to 1336 B.C. and may have ruled the New Kingdom outright after her husband’s death.
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Who I'd like to meet:
I have much experience in Forced Feminization, Domination,Submission,Humiliation,Erotic Blackmail,Electro,Chastity,Fire play, Cbt, Fire cuffs, Sensory deprivation, Orgasm control, Orgasm denial, Wax play, Tit torture, Tickle torture, Strapons, Ass play, Foot/ass worship, Water sports, Scat and beastiality.
What RLC type are you? Your Result: The DOMinator Often found in the Welcome Centre rooms or Passions BDSM room, you demand respect at all times. You expect loyalty from your subs, but deep down you like them as people and would be the first to defend them or help them if they needed. You are not fond of other 'doms' at all, and can usually be heard telling the rest of us how they are all charlatans who don't know what they're doing. 
I am an ebony plus size Queen in real life. Don't know what that means lets talk...I am Phat Pretty Hot And Thick! I am plump like a roast and baby better then most! I am happy with who i am ! I am not bones and hair. Have a problem with that then stay the fuck away from me! Beauty is a state of mind not body. I am here for my pleasures with my love not yours. Nor am i here to impress or please anyone on here. Find me blunt deal with it. My self title is resident bitch! My time and my love are given to those that love me. So your opinion of me does not matter. Love me or hate me my life will continue with or without you in it!
I come to you on my knees tonight
I am feeling out of my place
I have a need that only you can understand
This slave begs for your control
I need your absolute power
Esclipse my soul with it
To remind me
I am your possession
I need you to cleanse me
Of these feelings of insolence
Take your crop
Together we will go back
Back to where we live
Where i need to be
Hear me cry out
And know that's its for you
Lead me into the fire
I will come and join you there
I want you to make me worthy of you
The crop and the pain
They always bring me home
I need to be bound
Completely lost
Use my body
Fill my every opening
Burn out my improper thoughts
Fill me completely with you
I need you to give me pain
To make me beg
Taste my tears
Let me pay the price for
Belonging to you
Take it out in my flesh
To remind me
Take me to your edge
And then lead me farther
Where we live together
I go there for us
Slaves~
slaves should be just that slaves.
they are what their Mistress/Masters make of them.
Nothing more and certainly nothing less.
slaves are toys, property,items,belongings,things.
Things to be used for their owner's pleasure and enjoyment no matter how sick and depraved society may view it.
slaves have no mind of their own outside of what their owner fills it with.
slaves don't argue or object nor debate.
So why should you????
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More About Mistress_Caramel
My Other Profile/Website Links:
Interests:
I am very laid back person and sometimes shy and will not openly start a conversation not less one starts one with her.
Some find me conceited and hard to get along with! I am not conceited and know what i want and how to obtain it!
I don't deal with negative nor backwards people afraid to live and hide behind their own shadow!
I believe your can't live for others nor they can live 4 you!
My Favorite Websites:
Music:
~Bitch~
When I stand up for myself and my beliefs, they call me a bitch.
When I stand up for those I love,
they call me a Bitch.
When I speak my mind, think my own thoughts
or do things my own way, they call me a
Bitch. Being a bitch means I won't compromise what's in my heart.
It means I live my life MY way.
It means I won't allow anyone to step on me.
When I refuse to tolerate injustice and
speak against it, I am defined as a
Bitch. The same thing happens when I take time for myself instead of being everyone's maid, or when I act a little selfish.
It means I have the courage and strength to allow myself to be who I truly am
and won't become anyone else's idea of what they think I "should" be.
I am outspoken, opinionated and determined. I want what I want and there is nothing wrong with that! So try to stomp on me,
try to douse my inner flame, try to squash every ounce of beauty I hold within me.
You won't succeed. And if that makes me a bitch , so be it. I embrace the title and
am proud to bear it.
B - Babe
I - In
T - Total
C - Control of
H - Herself
B = Beautiful
I = Intelligent
T = Talented
C = Charming
H = Hell of a Woman
B = Beautiful
I = Individual
T = That
C = Can
H = Handle
~Your Place or mine~
I knock on your door
Anxious to feel your dick inside of me
You open your door, and notice my big grin on my face
You already know what I want.
So you invite me in, and ask if I want anything to drink.
I take a beer, and sit on your couch.
Ooops I spilled it over my boobs
You say let me help you with that
As you take off my shirt, I know what you are about to do
I smile back at you as you lick my tits up and down, oh so slow
I softly moan, as I am in a hurry to feel you inside of me
But I want a little tease first
As you keep on sucking my tits your hand goes down on me caressing my pussy
And making it even more wet
You unzip my jeans, pull them down and cares me more
For you know I love it when you put your hand on me
I slowly feel on finger enter me, so slow it makes me even hotter
You start caressing my insides, moving faster and putting in one more finger
Shills go down my spine, as I love your movements inside of me
My body begins to move with the rhythm
I am still moaning, loving every moment you gently kiss me and then suck my tongue
Damn this only makes me even hotter
But hold on that's enough for me, its time to pleasure you
I take off your shirt, and throw you down on the couch
I spill some beer over your chest, for I love to lick your six pack that's oh so hard
But I don't stop there; I wanna go even more south
So I unzip your jeans and take out your big and juicy dick
I look at it, and can't wait to put it in my mouth
So I spill some beer over it and lick it from the bottom to the top
Hearing you moan all the way
I can't stop so I take your dick inside my mouth and suck
Slow at first and getting faster as you moan even loader
I take it all in, swallowing every drop of your juices that you drop
I can't help it anymore Im so hot
I want you inside of me right now
So I jump on you and ride you like I have never riding you before
I jump on your cock, making it go deeper every time
You hold me from my hips with one hand and hold my tits with the other
You flip us over, and go even deeper, fucking me like you don't want to stop
Man I love every inch of you inside of me, I can't stop moaning.
Im dripping as you keep on banging me
You keep on fucking me, making it faster
Oh god I love it, and don't want you to stop
We both cum at the same time,
I know you loved it, as much as I did too
Same time tomorrow?
~Starts with a kiss~
HUG ME LOVE ME
TOUCH ME FUCK ME
WOULDN'T THAT
BE SO LOVELY.
HANDS TOUCHING EACH OTHER
IN EVERY WHICH WAY.
LOSING TRACK OF TIME,
NOT KNOWING IF IT'S NIGHT OR DAY.
TOUCH ME IN
MY NAUGHTY PLACE.
MAKE ME EXPLODE
INTO OUTER SPACE.
THIS SEXUAL FEELING
IT'S SO HEALING.
NOT THINKING ABOUT
THE DAYS GONE BY.
BECAUSE WE'RE FEELING
SO DAMN HIGH..
HIGH WITH EROTICA,
OH HOW I WANNA FUCK YA!.
I GIVE YOU PLEASURE,
YOU GIVE ME MINE.
IF WE GO ON FOREVER
IT'LL BE JUST FINE.
WE KEEP GOING AND GOING
LIKE THERE'S NO TOMORROW.
LOVING EACH ORGASM,
HERE CUMS MY FOURTH IN A ROW.
EVERY TIME, THE NEXT ONE,
IS BETTER THEN THE LAST.
WE HAVE TO SLOW DOWN
SO WE DON'T END IT TOO FAST.
TRYING NOT TO LOSE
THIS GREAT AFFECTION
OH MY GOD! THIS IS TURNING INTO
A SPIRITUAL RESURRECTION!
AT THE SAME TIME
WE SCREAM AND WE SHOUT.
THEN WE BOTH TAKE TURNS
GOING DOWN SOUTH.
MMM GIRL DAMN!
THAT FEELS SO GOOD
YOU MAKE ME SHIVER
NOW IT'S MY TURN
TO MAKE YOU QUIVER.
SHH. WE HAVE TO KEEP QUIET
OR WE'LL BE CAUGHT.
IT'S SO EXCITING
IT MAKES US MORE HOT.
WOW JUST TO THINK OF IT
MAKES IT SOUND GOOD
BUT ITS ALL UP TO YOU
IF WE REALLY SHOULD.
JUST TELL ME WHEN
YOU WANNA DO THIS.
ALL YOU GOTS TO DO TO START IT
IS WITH A LITTLE KISS.
~NAKED AND NASTY~
Let's get naked in the moonlight
and get nasty in the dark
I knew when we met the chemistry
was more than just a spark
I'll use my tongue from way down low
until the tippy top
We both know that it will feel so good
that neither wants to stop
Then while I'm licking underneath your sack
you'll firmly grab my hair
you just can't wait for it to put in my mouth
and work your way from there
I'll grip the base while sucking you off
and make my way around the head
But off your feet you'd like to be
so we make our way to bed
Slow is the music and a candle for light
while your head now slaps my lips
My tongue is dripping just like the juice
as down my leg it drips
You want to switch to which I'm not sure
If that's what I'd like to do
You have no idea what it's doing to me
the things I do to you
You don't mind - you'll have more time
to be back in my mouth
For now you continue to make you way
straight to way down south
You lick your way to where it's hot and wet
Oh, G od, you've hit the spot
I try not to cum quick, but as hard as I try
hold back I simply cannot
I hold back the scream that wants to come out
just as now I squirt
You're not quite sure so you say to me
Baby tell me did that hurt
I cannot speak I still can't stop
the shaking of my legs
And now you know you've got the power
my pussy how it begs
For what you've got you know I want
No more can both we wait
everything starts to pick up speed
even more so my heart rate
My legs you raise right over my head
and then you have your way
We've played, and we've talked, and even planned
for a day just like today
I'm so very wet just writing all this
I really must now go
See what you do, you're so damn Sexy
Now I hope you know!
Movies:
~G Spot~
G Spot
Where is the G Spot?
If your partner is lying on her back, then her Grafenberg Area, commonly known as the G Spot, is located roughly 1.5" inside her vagina on the upper wall. The most ultimate orgasms come from a woman having her G Spot stimulated. This area inside the vagina typically has a different texture; ridged (not as smooth) as the rest of her vagina, and when aroused feels spongy. A G Spot orgasm is often associated with the mystical legend of female ejaculation and 15-30 minutes of a euphoric sensation where she is in complete bliss... Don't expect much from her during this time, she is in heaven.
G Spot Technique
With your fingers approximately two to three inches in, move your fingers in even circles all around the inside of the vagina. It generally feels best if you keep consistent, firm pressure along the entire length of the vaginal walls while fingering. You may wish to give a LITTLE extra pressure towards her belly as long as you don't break the steady rotational rhythm. Stop rotating your fingers and rest your fingertips on the (usually slightly ridged) area of the vagina just behind the pubic bone and exert pressure towards her belly (upwards). This is direct G Spot stimulation, and it usually feels best if the fingers are subtly moving. You can move your fingers in small, slow circles, or point your fingers more sharply and rock them back and forth.
An advanced and very successful technique is a combination of the two. Trace the inside of her vagina with your finger(s), while moving in and out. Make sure that your fingertip always hits the g spot on each rotation. Finding a nice rhythm is critical in this technique, and when you get it right, she’ll be asking you how you learned that!
Stimulating G Spot During Intercourse
This topic is covered in greater detail in the vaginal intercourse article in the Intercourse section, but keep in mind the angle you position yourself during intercourse. Being able to stimulate the G Spot during intercourse will definitely increase the likelihood of your partner reaching orgasm through intercourse.
Toys
Sexual toys are a great way to enhance your sexual experiences. They can vibrate, stay hard, and best of all they don’t get tired. There is no better way to learn how to experience vaginal orgasms then by using a vibrator to help you figure out how to use your body better. If there is a way to stimulate it, there is a sex toy to automate the process and to no surprise this holds true when referring to the G Spot.
What a slave needs~
slaves, and those who seek to be slaves, are constantly advised not
to be self-centered and not to focus on our needs and desires but
rather those of others. And this can be good advice when a would-be
slave is so focused on fantasies of what a Master will look like, act
like, and do to the slave that he loses sight of what he will do for
the Master or bring to the relationship. Being a full-time sex
toy/captive/ whipping boy almost never actually happens, and if thats
what slavery means to you, 99% of the real-life Masters out there
will be terribly disappointing.
But aside from that lesson, theres another, more subtle lesson about
slave selfishness thats only now becoming clear to me, which is that
someone whos looking to become a slave, or remain a slave, needs to
be ruthlessly selfish about getting his or her slave needs met. By
this i don't mean the basic needs of life for food, shelter,
clothing, employment, social contacts, and a degree of affection. We
all need that, whether we're slaves or Tops or boys or vanilla.
Rather, i mean the things that feed and strengthen a slaves slavery:
things like direction, discipline, and service. About these there can
be no compromise, because when they are lacking in a slaves life,
slavery itself cannot long be sustained.
DIRECTION
The popular conception is that slaves are people who are forced to
obey a Master's orders, and many slaves also fantasize being forced.
Being obedient is held to be the opposite of freedom, and the
negative connotations of slavery largely consist in this lack of
freedom.
This no doubt was true of many or most coerced slaves in history. It
is not true of consensual slaves today. Those who become slaves today
in the U.S., Europe, and the rest of the developed world do so not
because they are being forced to obey, but because they positively
need to obey. Obedience is the voluntary slaves lifeblood. To obey is
not our cross but our joy! We only ask to be given the opportunity.
And thats where direction comes in. Any idiot can tell someone else
what to do! Lots of people are bossy or domineering or pushy. Thats
not what can satisfy a slaves need to obey, not in the long run,
because people who are merely bossy tend not to be very consistent or
intelligent about what they tell others to do; they operate on whim.
The more perfectly you obey someone like that, the more likely you
are to get into trouble, because todays order may contradict
yesterdays or undermine tomorrows. You can drive a dog or a child
insane with contradictory orders; is a slave any less sensitive?
Ideally, what slaves need whether they're aware of wanting it or
not! is clear direction, firm goals, consistent rules, unambiguous
orders. And it takes a Master with great presence of mind,
intelligence, self-control, and self-understanding to provide that
kind of environment.
DISCIPLINE
The most common slave fantasy is probably of being punished, but i
think the erotic charge of this is really a metaphor for discipline,
which is not the same as punishment. Discipline is controlled
behavior; punishment is simply a means, and often not a very good
one, of achieving discipline. Just as slaves need to obey, we need to
follow rules and to push ourselves to live up to some ideal. i think
every (voluntary) slave wants to be the perfect slave in some sense,
and we need as much as we need air and water someone to hold out
that ideal before us and challenge us to live up to it, even knowing
that we'll never actually achieve it.
If it were easy to be a slave, if anyone could do it, what would be
the point? If there were no sacrifice involved, if it required
nothing above and beyond ordinary life as a bottom-oriented
leatherman or leatherdyke, why bother?
slavery is a demanding, challenging vocation, or calling, and its
challenges cannot end once the slave enters into service with a
Master. The Master must provide a continual challenge as well as an
environment in which the slaves discipline and dedication are
continually honed. To this end, many Masters institute various
rituals and protocols for their slaves to follow. These are
misunderstood, i think, if they are examined too literally, and
especially if the point is taken to be the inculcation of a
worshipful attitude toward the Masters person. The point is to enable
the slave to develop a worshipful attitude, period. Giving the slave
a framework by which to live a disciplined life of respect and
dedication is the point, not feeding the Masters ego.
Nonetheless, at the very prosaic level of enforcement of rules, a
Master who does not notice or care about infractions is one who is
shirking His duty toward His slave. It is not necessary to punish,
but it is necessary to take notice of the lapse and deal with it in
some definite way. slaves need to feel the Masters eye on them
continually, until it is internalized. If He cannot or will not
provide discipline, He has no business owning a slave, just as a
parent who will not provide it for a child is unfit for that role.
SERVICE
While there are no end of fantasies about obedience and discipline,
most slaves only fantasize about sexual service but that is
typically the lesser part of a full-time slaves service. Indeed, the
difference between a slave and a bottom may turn on the willingness,
even eagerness, to serve in nonsexual ways. (As i once read in a
bottoms personal ad, I don't clean my own apartment why should I
clean yours?)
Difficulties arise when Masters, or slaves, confuse service with
being used. The difference is subtle but critical. Perhaps it is the
difference between being used and being useful. Being used has a very
negative connotation for most people, and i suspect that in cases
where it has a strong erotic charge, it refers more to the categories
of direction and discipline than service. That is, what is exciting
about �being used is being obedient and controlled, transcending
your own ego and its selfish pleasures to be an instrument of someone
elses will. That doesnt have to be a humiliating, demeaning, or
degrading experience it can be an exhilarating and liberating one.
Being useful, in contrast, is something that most people do find
pleasurable and rewarding slaves more than others. It is the sense
of right employment, of expending your life energies in a good and
satisfying way. The joy of service is the feeling of having made a
difference in some part of the world, however small.
When Masters think of a slaves service purely in terms of having him
at Their beck and call to fulfill any whim or transient desire, They
trivialize the slaves slavery and undermine his ability to continue
that way of life. On the contrary: a case could be made that the main
reason Masters even exist is to provide slaves with an opportunity to
serve to the best of their abilities! Whether you accept that view or
not, a Master who neglects or wastes a slaves talents is worse than a
fool; it is a form of abuse as serious as physical harm or neglect.
Perhaps the greatest challenge for a Master is to determine how a
given slave can best serve Him, and to reconsider the matter again
and again as the slave grows, learns, and develops. This is not to
say that any particular service should be beneath any particular
slave we can all benefit from taking a turn at menial chores.
Nonetheless, a slave needs to feel, overall, that he is fulfilling
his potential for service, or he will not remain content in his
slavery for long.
SUMMARY
In conclusion, the lesson im trying to convey is that slaves need to
look out for ourselves in terms of making sure that our needs for
direction, discipline, and service get fulfilled. No matter how sexy
a potential Master may be, no matter how many of your fetishes He
matches and BDSM buttons He pushes, if theres no clear evidence that
He'll provide for your basic needs as a slave, look elsewhere. By the
same token, a potential Master who's not your wet dream but can offer
an environment of clear direction, firm discipline, and opportunities
for challenging and satisfying service deserves at least a second
look.
Submissive~
A submissive (often abbreviated to 'sub') is a person of either gender who submits to the will of a dominant, either for limited sexual play or within a longer-term relationship.To many, submission is an odd concept. Why would an otherwise intelligent adult voluntarily let someone else be 'the boss of them' ? Well it may be because submission is not a choice you make, it's who you are. Submissives come in all shapes and sizes. A powerful international tycoon is just as likely to be a submissive as a shy teenage girl. Some submissives are able to compartmentalise their lives, appearing to the world as confident and controlling but still managing to have private times when they can abandon that control. For others the need to submit is more powerful and will dictate the kinds of long-term relationships they enter into and the life they lead. There are those who have a generalised need to be submissive and express this with a succession of inter-changeable partners, and others who only feel the need to be submissive with one special person. For some, submission is limited to sexual play while for others it permeates every aspect of their lives. In return for granting power to a dominant a submissive receives the freedom to 'let go' ; to unlock the door and let the secret inner-self come out to play in safety. Day-to-day concerns and the need to make decisions cease to matter to a submissive once she is totally focussed on, and submitting to, the will of a dominant. In submitting to control like this the submissive can, paradoxically, become free. Clearly a deep surrender of control involves placing a great deal of trust in the dominant and isn't appropriate for a BDSM session with a relative stranger, where the risks require that the nature of play and its limits should be subject to negotiation first. In a committed D/s relationship though, a dominant and a submissive have the chance to gradually earn each others trust. Trust is hard-won and easily lost, but it is the living, breathing heart of submission. The more a submissive builds trust with her dominant, the more a unique and exhilarating kind of freedom becomes attainable. The roles of submissive and dominant demand equal respect. Being a submissive does not make you 'weak' or 'a doormat'. Real submission requires strength and resolve. Some say that within any relationship involving domination and submission the submissive has the upper hand because she can withdraw at her whim the power enjoyed by the dominant, and indeed that may be true of a very shallow and superficial kind of submission. It is probably truer to say that succesful D/s relationships are always built upon a mutual fulfillment of needs. Domination and submission are the yin and yang of BDSM, the equal and complementary opposites that, through their benign sybiosis, create relationships of terrific strength and vitality. Neither one can live without the other. )
Training slaves~
There are many different philosophies behind training and even more approaches to doing it. Here I shall try to explain things in both as general a way as I can, while pointing out as many specifics and variations as I am aware of, as well as explaining my own feelings and approaches. I shall try to make clear when I am speaking in each mode, though I hope you will understand if I miss a bit.
First, when talking about training one needs to be aware of the motive and objectives of those involved. What does the submissive/slave want from the experience? and What does the dominant/master/mistress/trainer want from the experience? The answers to these questions determine how successful the endeavor will be. In my years in the scene I have seen very little formal training for the submissive/slave, instead seeing them learning in each successive relationship. While this can in some situations be successful, in most cases it does not lead to healthy lasting relationships (but then again, few relationships last for long even in the vanilla world).
Serial training is hard on a submissive. Trying to learn to please one is hard, then trying to learn to please another who uses a very different style or approach, or even who focuses on different aspects of BDSM is even harder as there is a large amount of un-learning that needs to be done. A certain amount of this will always be unavoidable as long as relationships end and new ones begin, however a comprehensive training period can provide a solid grounding. From this training and self-exploration the submissive/slave will know themselves better within the BDSM world as well as knowing many of the basic skills expected of a submissive/slave as well as some advanced ones.
Making the choice to seek training instead of a relationship is a difficult one. Most of us have been looking for years for someone to be intimate with, grow with, and spend the rest of our lives with. Choosing to put that search on hold for a year or more is not an easy one, especially if there is already someone in your life. It can be an even more difficult choice to make when finances and career enter into the equation. However, learning is one of the most rewarding parts of living. Many do this, going to college, learning on the job, going to graduate school, etc., and never stop to learn about ourselves. No where in common society is one given the opportunity to explore the sexual side of themselves outside of a relationship, with all of it's extra baggage, expectations, demands. A good training program focuses on exploration of the trainee's self, desires and fantasies. While there can be a lot to give up, a formal training is ultimately rewarding in the chance it gives one to learn without additional pressures/expectations.
From the point of view of a typical dominant, most are also primarily looking for a relationship and many are themselves exploring their dominance as they go, unsure of exactly what they want, or how to teach or even ask it of a submissive, to say nothing of how lost they are when the submissive says no. Their focus is more on finding someone who matches and compliments themselves and then exploring with the submissive only what interests them (the dominant).
While there are ocassionally wonderful matches resulting from this, the majority of both dominants and submissives search for a long time before they find a single partner who matches what they think they want and with whom they are compatible. While training of both submissives will help this, it will never cure it completely.
Used as a way to learn more about oneself and about whatever interests one within BDSM training is a safe and healthy way to explore. To accomplish this the training and teaching that is done must focus on the needs and desires of the submissive/slave rather than the needs and desires of the dominant.
Few people have the gift and vision to teach well and training is quite teaching intensive. Fewer still are prepared to train without a relationship, and to put the emphasis on the submissive rather than themselves.
Books:
~Female Supremacy~
Female supremacy, many images come to mind when you hear that phrase. The ball-breaking female executive in a power suit, the man-hating Xena type riding full out hair streaming behind her, the man-hating bull dyke truck driver in overalls, the super bitch in leather with nosebleed stiletto's, all those stereotypes and which one am I? None of them actually. There are many reasons why I believe in female supremacy and the superiority of matriarchy and goddess worship over current trends. I will share those reasons with you, and you can make up your own mind.
Long ago men provided physical protection from bigger beasts and the harsh environment. Since women are the bearers of new additions to the population, it was and is hardly meant to put them on the lines of fire so to speak. So they were and are protected because of their ability to procreate and swell the numbers of the community. The women cooked, farmed, and gathered fruits, vegetables, roots and various other edibles. This was a vital function if the hunting was bad, and to enrich the diet when hunting was good. Smaller, wiry men are considered quicker than the large, bulky men. But women, smaller still, are not usually credited with quickness or dexterity. Often they are quicker and more dexterous than men are. That being what you learn best when you work with your hands making clothes, picking fruit, weaving rugs, etc. You needed both halves to have a complete whole; someone to hunt and protect, and someone to stay home, gather, farm, cook and create. Is it a coincidence, that the first thing mankind worshiped was a goddess? The oldest religious artifact found is the Great Goddess of Heaven. Often depicted as a disk or circle, she is symbolic of the firmament and eternal cycles of nature. Male religious figures where always a secondary role of lesser powers, considered mortal and not as important as the female figures. Often, ancient tombs of an old agricultural race are found that are shaped in the form of pregnant bellies, the entrance is vulva shaped. No weapon has ever been found in these graves. Until the surge of barbaric nomads, matriarchal societies flourished with their goddesses and nonviolent ways. Nomads measured virtue in the form of bodily strength, fighting skills, and warfare proficiency. They were crude and violent, sweeping through the peaceful, intelligent and non-violent goddess tribes like wildfire. Killing what they couldn't fuck or eat. Gentle and powerful goddess worship gave way to much cruder and violent male deity worship. Goddess worship has, however, persisted. The images of cross, eye, triangle, and fishbone patterns are all aspects of ancient goddesses that are woven into rugs, clothing, tatoos, adornments, jewelry, and china patterns, slyly passed on in patriarchal religions as their own invention. Many people will argue that there was no society in which women ruled. This is not true. There were many societies, such as the Iroquois, Ashanti, and Dahomeans. Often these older Indian cultures have been pointed out to be superior to our current social structure. I agree with that idea as well. The women held power, but not as conspicuously as men do in current society.
Women are rational; they are more prone to use their intelligence over their hormones to make decisions. Some are quick to play the pms card, but we women use drugs, if needed, to balance us out during those times. Men have yet to take a pill to make the penis go down so they can make objective choices. Men are visual; women are emotional. Everyone knows this. Things and people might appear to be beautiful and wondrous, but they might not really be that way on the inside. So while men's sight tells them that's a pretty, hot babe, women's emotions know that bitch is cruel and mean. Men will fuck that same cruel bitch anyway, just to say they did it. That is base and animalistic behavior, to rut uncaring of your partner. One night stands - men think these are lucky coincidences. While that woman, perhaps for the rest of her life, will hate herself for doing this, and will hate the man for not calling. Men have problems controlling their baser instincts. 96% of serial killers are male, 98% of child molesters are male, 95% of rapists are male, 80% of violent (non-sexual) crime is committed by men and 2 out of 3 married men have committed adultery, without the consent of their partner. Looking pretty grim isn't it ladies? Yet this same gender, with their inability to control themselves and their excessive use of hormones ruling their decisions, who are solely responsible for the most horrendous crimes, wars, and human cruelties, are often put in a positions of leadership time and time again. It's been said, "Behind every good man is a great woman." This is more a truism than you could ever know. Some of the best male leaders had a wife to temper their judgement and guide them. Some of the best leaders where women.
There are always extremists in any ideology and those extremists can be quite annoying to those outside and within the particular school of thought. Those extremists in female supremacy are what we would term amazons and they seem to be an online phenomenon in my experience. All men should not be worshiping women; they aren't all lesser beings; and they don't all need to be shipped off to an island or made obsolete. We as female supremacists have good relationships with men, men who are friends, and men who are our submissives. We don't abuse or humiliate my boys because of their gender. Men don't need to be ruled with an iron fist; they just need guidance. If they don't accept it, then don't argue the point; just let them make their mistake. Most of us haven't been raped, molested, had a man promoted over us, had a man replace us, or had a man abandon us as children. We aren't recruited into this by a roving band of lesbian Mafioso. We have many strong female role models our lives, and not any strong male ones. We have heard the stereotypes about women, and laughed at the insanity of it. We have overcome the mold, thought for ourselves and figured out how it all works for us. Female Supremacy isn't full of extremists who try to bomb football games and cuckold their husbands. Our reasons are many, but our ideology is sound. We're people you know, people you work with, and people you're related to. You might even have a little streak inside waiting to come out.
~FEMALE ORGASM~
Before You Get Started
Some women seem to have an incredibly difficult time reaching orgasm during intercourse; that is if they are able to orgasm at all. The most common reason for this is that they don’t know their own bodies. Society has had this brilliant effect of instilling into our minds from childhood that masturbation is sinful, wrong and dirty. Well, everyone is entitled to his or her own opinion, but all common sense dictates that this couldn’t be farther from the truth.
Thanks to this misconception, many people, especially women, have stopped themselves from learning their bodies, thereby reducing the chances of being able to fully enjoy sex. It is hard for many women to unlearn all that they have been taught, and they often feel that “touching themselves does not bring pleasure”. There is some truth behind that - they are not lying, they do not feel pleasure. However, this is not because there is no pleasure to be felt, just that they have been indirectly taught to not enjoy it. Getting beyond this will take time and patience, so never rush your partner.
If your woman has never had an orgasm (this is often the case if they say, "I think I’ve had one"), you will want to refer to the female masturbation article to get things started. Learning to please a woman who can’t orgasm on her own is extremely difficult, so we highly suggest that you start with getting her to play with herself, and allow her to learn how her body reacts to different stimulus.
The last note has to do with your approach. Orgasms can’t be forced, and the more pressure you put on her to cum, the less likely it is to happen. Take things slow, learn techniques, experiment with them and find what works. If you start getting frustrated when you aren’t seeing results, it will show, and unfortunately make it even harder. Sex is supposed to be fun and enjoyable - as soon as you make it too serious, it takes away from the pleasure!
About Orgasms
There are two major types of orgasms a women can have ...clitoral and G spot, otherwise known as vaginal orgasms. When masturbating, women usually learn to get themselves off using their clitoris. There is nothing wrong with that, but it leaves the whole world of vaginal orgasms untapped. Many women are unable to climax during intercourse, as they aren't familiar enough with the stimulation to enjoy it to its fullest extent. While you learn to read your partner's body signs, it never hurts to ask a question, especially if you are trying new techniques.
Coitus, commonly known as vaginal sex, can be one of the clumsiest ways to stimulate a woman, if done without thought. While it does provide an atmosphere that can be highly arousing, emotionally satisfying and erotic, the degree of stimulation to the woman's clitoral area is nothing compared to masturbation or cunnilingus. One can incorporate manual stimulation to the clitoris during sex, but this is not very necessary if your woman has had vaginal orgasms in the past, and if you know how to hit the g spot correctly. To learn more about positions and the g spot, please refer to the g spot article and positions section. No one wants to involve geometry into sex, but it is wise to know which positions stimulate the G spot the best. In order to help her achieve a vaginal orgasm, you need to make sure you are "hitting" the G spot with each stroke.
Many men fantasize about the myth of female ejaculation. Well, for starters, its no myth, most women should theoretically be able to have them. The key is g spot stimulation, but all of this is well described in the article on female ejaculation.
Some Ideas on Getting Her There:
First of, we would like to remind you to relax, and not to make her orgasm the purpose behind the encounter. The more of a goal you make it; the less likely it is that it will happen. Relax and enjoy yourselves, as that is the most important part.
The Grind
During Intercourse, you want to increase the pressure exerted on the woman's clitoris. This can be accomplished by rotating your hips just like when you are "grinding" on a dance floor. Try to really push against the front of her groin with the area just above the penis. Rocking back and forth or side to side is a really good way of getting started.
Rule of Thumb
With the woman sitting on top, the man should lie flat on his back, pelvic tilted upward, and stomach muscles tightened. You want to arch your hips upwards to improve the quality of “the Grind”; this can be achieved easily by putting a pillow under the man’s bum. He then should put his hand over the woman’s pubic region, and place his thumb on the woman’s clitoris. While the woman is riding her partner, he can simultaneously stimulate her clitoris.
T Position
With the woman lying on her back, the man should lie perpendicularly (i.e., at a right angle to her, thus forming the ‘T’), while straddling the woman’s far leg. Depending on the woman’s flexibility, this can be a great position for deep penetration, while exposing the clitoris for manual stimulation. This double stimulation is very gratifying and can often lead to the big “O” really quickly.
The Maximizer
The woman lies on her back, legs tightly held together. The man lies on top, or stands/kneels, in front. Instead of being directly in line with her, the man should be at a slight diagonal. Both of her legs should be over one shoulder, or on one side, of his body; he should begin penetration. This position is designed to maximize female clitoral stimulation and is easiest to perform with the man standing or kneeling (i.e. the woman should have her legs hanging off a counter, couch or bed).
Using Sex Toys
Sex toys can be used in virtually any sexual position, and thanks to the creative people who design toys, if you can think of a toy, chances are its already made. Feel free to visit our online store to view all of the products, or follow the links below to find products designed to increase stimulation during intercourse. If you have never used a sex toy, you can read our article on using vibrators and our article on sex toy care.
Vibrating Clitoral Suckers
This class of products works as follows: put the cup part of the toy over the clitoral area, squeeze the pump a couple times to build up some suction, then turn on the vibrating egg, which is generally attached to the cup. The suction is great because it draws more blood to the clitoris, making it more sensitive, as well as it keeps the toy hands free. It can be used during intercourse to add incredible sensations, but some varieties may prove a little bulky for some positions. Click here to check out the selection.
Regular Vibrators
For those of you who are looking for something with a little more functionality, we recommend getting a regular vibrator. The can be held in place during intercourse to stimulate whatever you want, they can be inserted anally, and can be used on their own as well. They are available in a wide variety of shapes, sizes, and purposes. Click here to check out the selection.
~One Kinky Ass~
Don't be afraid of hurting me
the pain i face, the pain i adore
use me as your chew toy
use me as you please
don't care if your legal
younger the better
they say i am sinful
they say i am disgusting
female or male it doesn't matter
i am in it for the thrill
make me squeal
make me scream for mercy
make some noise i like to hear some sound
handcuffs, whips, chains
i like all kinds of toys
i need an imaginative lover
who can create things
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